Through my experience health and fitness shouldn't be something that you need to measure, weigh and record. It should be something you feel. The way you feel will tell you exactly how healthy you are on the inside. When you focus on being healthy the appearance of your body will follow. It has to. When you start weighing food, counting calories, recording kilos lost every day and obsessing in front of the mirror I believe it starts to get a little unhealthy and it can put you in a very bad frame of mind.
When you steer away from the way that you feel (your intuition) and start relying on what the scales say, or the average BMI weight to height ratio says or even compare yourself to others in terms of where you “should be” to tell you whether or not you are progressing it becomes a very slippery slope to go down.
I have been in that exact state of mind. All I ever thought about was what I was going to eat, when I would fit exercise in my schedule, will I make my target in my weekly weigh in? Am I doing enough exercise to get me to my goal weight? I wonder if they have a gym when I go on holidays? Or I can't go to that social event if I can't take my own food with me. This is the definition of mental and not how you should live your life.
I remember during this holiday overseas (pictured above) I was getting ready for a fitness model comp. Here I was on this amazing holiday overseas with my younger sisters, younger brothers, my dad and step mum and instead of really enjoying the time I had with them and REALLY being present in the moment I was obsessing. I was obsessing about what I was going to eat for the next meal. Would what I eat be within my macro-nutrient target for the day. I was obsessing about when I would fit my exercise around our daily outings. I was obsessing about how lean I was looking every morning and If I looked leaner than the previous morning. This makes me sad to think about it. This is sad. It is not the way to be and I feel like I really missed out on having an even more amazing time on that trip creating memories I would cherish forever. Instead I was in my own head over thinking a training method and diet that was not even healthy for me. That is not what health and fitness is about.
Because I was obsessing so much I developed a slight body dysmorphia too. I had abs at the time but all I would focus on was the (very little mind you) fat that I had on my body. I would look in the mirror and see someone a lot bigger than I actually was. Unfortunately I see this kind of thinking a lot with young girls. There is so much pressure these days with social media.
If this is how you are approaching your health and fitness goals, I don't care who you are, this is not healthy in any way shape or form. I don't encourage this at all with any of my clients and if anything I try to get them to be more relaxed towards the process. Health and fitness does not include overthinking, obsessing, measuring and weighing. It’s about feeling good about your body, feeding it with nutritiously dense foods, feeling healthy, feeling fit, feeling positive mentally and enjoying this marvellous life we are so lucky to live.
There is a reason I went through this journey myself. It was so I could educate and share it with my clients. To never give yourself a break & never allow your body to rest is just ridiculous. Having a day of rest a week or having dinner out with friends is not the end of the world. Take the pressure off yourself. Maintaining that level of pressure on yourself just never works & eventually leads to a breakdown of some kind. We are not robots. Be kind & gentle to the body & it will pay you back tenfold. Trust me on this. I am healthier than I think I have been in my life right now. Both physically and mentally. I've learned to relax and balance out good nutritious food with pizza, exercise with rest days and stress with relaxing walks outdoors and nanna naps.